The Prodigal Son by He Qi |
Sunday, March 10, 2013
Luke
15:1-3, 11B-32
1Now all the tax
collectors and sinners were coming near to listen to him. 2And the
Pharisees and the scribes were grumbling and saying, "This fellow welcomes
sinners and eats with them."
3So he told them
this parable:
11b"There
was a man who had two sons. 12The younger of them said to his
father, 'Father, give me the share of the property that will belong to me.' So
he divided his property between them. 13A few days later the younger
son gathered all he had and traveled to a distant country, and there he squandered
his property in dissolute living. 14When he had spent everything, a
severe famine took place throughout that country, and he began to be in need. 15So
he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, who sent
him to his fields to feed the pigs. 16He would gladly have filled
himself with the pods that the pigs were eating; and no one gave him anything. 17But
when he came to himself he said, 'How many of my father's hired hands have
bread enough and to spare, but here I am dying of hunger! 18I will
get up and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned
against heaven and before you; 19I am no longer worthy to be called
your son; treat me like one of your hired hands."'
20So he set off and
went to his father. But while he was still far off, his father saw him and was
filled with compassion; he ran and put his arms around him and kissed him. 21Then
the son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you; I am
no longer worthy to be called your son.' 22But the father said to
his slaves, 'Quickly, bring out a robe-the best one-and put it on him; put a
ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. 23And get the fatted
calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate; 24for this son of
mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found!' And they began to
celebrate.
25"Now his elder son was in the field; and when he
came and approached the house, he heard music and dancing. 26He
called one of the slaves and asked what was going on. 27He replied,
'Your brother has come, and your father has killed the fatted calf, because he
has got him back safe and sound.' 28Then he became angry and refused
to go in. His father came out and began to plead with him. 29But he
answered his father, 'Listen! For all these years I have been working like a
slave for you, and I have never disobeyed your command; yet you have never
given me even a young goat so that I might celebrate with my friends. 30But
when this son of yours came back, who has devoured your property with prostitutes,
you killed the fatted calf for him!' 31Then the father said to him,
'Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. 32But
we had to celebrate and rejoice, because this brother of yours was dead and has
come to life; he was lost and has been found.'"
Sermon: “The Prodigal’s Brother”
Do you know my Dad never
even threw me a birthday party? I never
got so much as a measly goat to share with my friends. But my brother, oh he got it all. You know all about him, everyone does: the golden,
shiny, “Prodigal son.” No one even
bothers to remember me: they never did.
I guess, “The Bitter, Hard-Working Son” just doesn’t have the same ring
to it.
We were total opposites, my
brother and I. He was reckless,
impulsive, immature. I was responsible, deep-thinking and moral. While I was working hard in my father’s
fields, he ran off to hang out with prostitutes. Okay, I embellished that part a bit…but still,
he took the inheritance my father worked hard to earn for him and spend it all
in the Vegas of our time on wild parties and worthless entertainment. He clearly didn’t value our family, or care
that he was my brother. He just left. He did always care about his own happiness
above everyone else’s, that prodigal brother of mine.
I still remember the day he
came home. I had spent another
back-breaking day working in the fields, doing my work and the work my lazy
brother had left for me. I was filthy
and exhausted. I heard music and saw a
bit of light at the end of the darkness of manual labor: maybe someone
important was visiting! Maybe I’d get to
let loose and enjoy some fun for once. I
could already taste the grilled meat and sweet wine…I was in real need of a
party. But then a slave of my Dad’s told
me that my brother was back and that all of this extravagance was for him! There are no words for just how furious I was
in that moment (but I did utter a few four-letter ones).
Though I was tired and
desperate for something to drink, I sat down right there in the field. I would not go into that party – it was
against all I stood for. I would not add
my blessing to my brother’s recklessness by eating his fatted calf and drinking
his wine. I would rather stay
thirsty. After a while, my Dad came to
find me. I’m surprised he even noticed I
was missing when my glowing brother was there.
But he came out and had the
audacity to ask me why I wasn’t going to the party. He even begged me to come inside. Oh, y’all, that’s when I really let him have
it! I shouted at him – my Father –
something I had never done.
I knew I sounded like a
three-year old but I didn’t care.
“This is SO unfair!”
I yelled. “I never ever left you – I’ve been here, working like a slave for you
each and every day and I never get so much as a little barbecue for my
friends. My so-called brother abandons
us all and you act like it didn’t even hurt you. I saw how you and Mom cried all of those
nights, sick with worry for him. I saw
how you would wince anytime someone mentioned his name, because you missed him
so much. Does none of that matter? He just shows up, looking filthy and smelling
like a pig, and you run to meet him…you put your best robe on him and kill that
calf we’ve been saving for a really special occasion? And you expect me to be happy about
it?!? It’s not fair. He doesn’t deserve all this. Actually, come to think of it, I deserve all
this.”
My Dad didn’t yell back,
which surprised me. He just looked at
me, and after an uncomfortable silence, said, “Son, you’re right. You are always with me, always helping me
without ever complaining. But you have
to understand: your brother was dead. He
had no family, no home, no food. But he
came home: he’s alive again. And we’re
alive, too, because the part of us that was missing for all those terrible
nights is back. I can’t help but
celebrate. It doesn’t mean I love you
less than him. It means I have both of my boys back. So please, come, celebrate with us. I know how much you’ve missed your brother.”
Your story ends there. You never find out whether I went into the
party or not, whether I welcomed my brother home or not. Part of me really wants to be able to fill in
the missing details by telling you that we all lived happily ever after.
But that would be a
lie. I did not go into that party. I did not welcome my brother, because my
understanding of what was right and what was wrong wouldn’t let me. I did not hug the one who I’d gone fishing
with as a boy, the one I’d taught to climb a tree, who followed me like a
shadow everywhere I went, because my anger wouldn’t let me. And so, just as I’d lost him before, I lost
my brother all over again. I never
forgave him.
Soon after that, I took my
own inheritance (using it wisely, of course) and moved away. Sure, I saw my brother at family reunions and
Passover celebrations, but I never spoke to him more than the small talk of
strangers.
Years and years later,
reflecting on this story of mine that you know so well, and yet do not know at
all, I still miss my brother. I wish we
could go back to the days when he would follow me and I would look out for
him. I wish I had just swallowed my
pride and gone into that party. I wish I
could have shown him the grace my Father so extravagantly showed him.
These events are all in the
past for me: it is too late to change them.
But it is not too late for
you. If you have held onto anger and
bitterness because you know you’re right and someone else is wrong, let it
go. If you have excluded people from your
life or church because you think you deserve to be there and they do not, let
it go. If you have drank envy instead of
celebration wine and eaten self-righteousness instead of the fatted calf of
grace, let it go.
Get up, leave your past
behind, and run to meet your brother and sister who has been lost, but now is
found.
If you do, you’ll discover
that we are all of us lost in one way or another. My brother was lost because he was desperate
for meaning and never saw that it was in front of him all along. I was lost because I let pride dictate my
actions more than love. At least my
little brother admitted it at the time; I’ve only just been able to admit it
now.
We’re all lost. But when we share our lostness together, when
we recognize that in God we are brothers and sisters and that is the only truth
that matters, we will find that we are also all in the process of being found
again. I know now what my anger wouldn’t
let me know then: that my brother and I never stopped being brothers, though he
ran away and came home again, and though I ran away and never really did.
God made us brothers, just
like God makes each of us in this broken, unfair human family brothers and
sisters. Whatever your pain or regret,
whatever the hurt you have caused or have suffered yourself, whatever ways you
think you’re right or know you’re wrong, don’t let that get in the way of
welcoming the prodigal home. Risk being
foolishly, extravagantly forgiving and run, don’t walk, to meet them. It is what my Dad did. It is what God would do. It is what I wish I had done. Amen.
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